Brian Betts ~ April
“Sort it out”
As a child growing up, I had one younger sister, and there were many times when there was a conflict over playing with toys or how a game was to be played. There were many opportunities that my parents had us “work it out” to maintain a positive relationship. I am sure you can relate to conflicts between people you have had in your life and the options you were presented with to solve the issue.
This month’s goal is to build relationships by sorting out problems and differences. The Bible verse from Colossians 3:12-13 says, “Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourself with compassion, gentleness, and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.” This is a powerful verse and is a reminder of how we are to care for others.
God has made us unique individuals, and at times, we will not agree on something that happens in our lives. It will be important to sort out the differences as the Bible verse reminds us of the powerful practice of working together. The first step is to see the problem and identify how to resolve it. This is usually a great challenge for people as there can be many emotions that come with it that make people feel angry, which is normal. There can also be feelings of being embarrassed, sad, lonely, disappointed, or scared. What is helpful is to be brave enough to communicate your true feelings, and people are more likely to hear you and understand your point of view. In conflicts, there are always two sides to the story; before you can solve the problem, it is essential to own your part. Determine what you are responsible for and how you can do a better job to solve the problem. Resolving the conflict will involve using strategies like active listening, I message, and compromising. These are ways to help move forward and build a stronger relationship. So now it is time to use the tools presented to “Sort it Out.” This is hard work but essential as we work to show love and maintain relationships with others.
In our daily life there are going to be conflicts that will need to be navigated. The Bible reminds us in 2 Corinthians chapter 5 that as God’s people, we are to be reconciled to Him and, in turn, be reconciled to others. We are Christ’s example of love and forgiveness, working to make wrong things right. How can you use these strategies to show Jesus through your words and actions this month? Jesus has done the hard work on the cross for all of us and Endured more than we have. May God bless you in your efforts to show Jesus through your life this month.
In Christ,
Brian J. Betts-Principal